Quote: Empty CupFollowing on from the ‘New Year, New You’ article – it’s time to make a commitment to yourself. When I say commitment, I mean to work on yourself daily so it becomes a habit, according to the book ‘Psycho-Cybernatics’, it takes 21 days to form a habit and Self-Commitment is no different, it’s a daily practice that could change your life for the better.

There’s an old saying that ‘You can’t our from an empty cup!’ and it’s true, if you’re a busy professional, a carer or someone who has chronic health issues, the 3 S’s could help you find the balance you need in your emotional care.

I suggest a three pronged approach to help bolster your emotional well-being:

  • Self-Care,
  • Self-Compassion,
  • Self-Acceptance.

S E L F – C A R E
Self-Care isn’t just about pampering yourself, a pamper and treat are a welcome quick fix but the feeling of satisfaction soon evaporates as life deals you a dose of normality. Real Self-Care is about reducing the impact of life’s stresses so you can feel your best to tackle what life might throw at you. Could you apply some of these to your life?

  • Life/Work balance – knowing your limits,
  • Creating healthy boundaries in all your relationships,
  • Saying NO to things that make you unhappy to please others,
  • Having interests like hobbies, sport, connecting with friends, etc.

S E L F – C O M P A S S I O N
Self-Compassion is about treating yourself better, being mindful of negative chatter and it’s impact on your mental health. We can be our own worst enemy at times, we certainly wouldn’t say the things we think about ourselves to other people but we can be really mean to ourselves on a regular basis. How could you be more Self-Compassionate?

  • Be kind to yourself, as you would with a friend,
  • Monitor your negative chatter,
  • Be your own best friend,
  • Less self-judgement, more cheerleader.

S E L F – A C C E P T A N C E
Self-Acceptance can be difficult in a world where media and advertising are constantly telling you that you don’t measure up or that you could improve yourself by using product A,B, or C.

Insecurities can start at a young age young, we can be affected by our experiences and interactions with the people we share our lives with, for example: parents, siblings or peers. In time, we can start to believe the things that we see in the media and absorb the negative chatter from our interactions with others.

Could you start to accept the person that you are and disconnect from the negative things you think about yourself or encounter?


  • Who you are,
  • What you look like,
  • That you aren’t perfect and that’s okay,
  • You’ll mess up sometimes.

I can imagine you thinking, “That’s all well and good but how do I put some of these into practice?

In future blogs, I will be expanding on some of these so you apply them to your life and begin the habit of the Self-Care, Self-Compassion and Self-Acceptance.

Thank you for reading, be back soon!

Libby – Plan B Counsellor